Your sister sounds like a "get on with it" sort of person, which is good normally, but unfortunately emotions don't work on that same path.

People often expect you to get over it though. And quickly. Which is why this is such a private pain. People don't know how to react or respond sometimes - some are sensational, while others wish that you'd never told them because they don't know how to deal with it.

It's okay that you're feeling like this, just remember that. If you're anything like me, you probably feel like you're being silly or overly emotional. So what? It doesn't just go away at the flick of a switch. The pain rears it's head when you least expect it, and then there's occasions where you brace yourself for it and it never actually arrives.